After coming out, I’ve spent years trying to build bridges with my parents, particularly my father, whose anti-SSM stance never seems to waver, as each conversation I’ve had with him have ended in emotional arguments, with neither of us backing down from our positions. However, as I’ve realized that my time with him is short and valuable, and not worth the fighting and tears, I’ve decided to leave things be, and bring up SSM with him whenever it should work for me. He is an amazing father and have sacrificed and endured so much that I would feel less of a person if I were to abandon him. And, as such, I would feel the same if he were to abandon me. There are so many other things we are able to connect with that I choose to pursue those conversations with him instead, and have my SSM discussions with others.
There are some things we can’t control, but we can control our own emotions.
From Andrew Sullivan’s blog:
“It’s staggering to me that a minority long persecuted for holding unpopular views can now turn around and persecute others for the exact same reason. If we cannot live and work alongside people with whom we deeply disagree, we are finished as a liberal society.”
I remember reading Andrew Sullivan’s column every now and then, thinking “Wow, he’s pretty conservative for a gay guy. He must be a Log Cabin Republican.”
And now, I’m finding that I’m starting to think like him…